I honestly believe that our ability to set strong boundaries relates to our self-esteem. When we have high self esteem we realize that our needs must be communicated and limits must be placed for self preservation. It has taken me years to truly speak with truth about what I will and won’t accept in a calm clear way that gets respect. I really dislike confrontation and love to please but my love for my own inner peace has ignited a monumental shift in me and it’s fantastic. Women and girls need to be taught how to speak there truth with grace and confidence. I know for sure that it will change the lives we live for the better. More to come on this subject! Ing x
There is one person that although I really do like as a friend I don’t seem to connect with in business. I’ve never really felt like I could connect with her spirit. I felt her beauty but also a hardness that I could not penetrate. For me this kind of relationship even in business is hard to work with in the long run. I want to connect, communicate and collaborate with ease. I want to feel safe and that the space that I create for Bodylove is sacred and full of the energy that I believe brings beauty and healing.
It is time to cut the chord and to let our business partnership go. It can be hard when you really want to a relationship to work but if it’s not meant to be it’s not meant to be. If you can’t see I eye to eye and if you can’t collaborate easily in a mutual vision then it’s time to let the relationship close on a business level. I don’t mind passionate discussions but I really would much rather spend my time in passionate action than in banter that drains me to the core. This woman does not listen to me and I believe has a control/ fear issue, which is not mine to deal with.
What I have learnt about me is that I had fear about letting her go because I thought I needed her to help me grow my business and I wanted to bond with another female to build Bodylove. But I know that I need to trust myself and that by LETTING GO of this relationship that I will bring new opportunities and people into my world. I know that my inner wisdom is guiding me and that after many hard lessons I have learnt to lean on myself, God and those dear friends and partners that work with ease, love and truth. I have been kicked in the ass many a time when I did not listen to my intuition and I promised myself to never do the same thing again. And I always keep my promises to myself.
I also know that energetically those that do not fit my vibe drain the life force from my soul and my body. I am a radiant woman guided by God and I must trust and listen to my inner voice. Now that I have the strength and insight that I must let go to be in flow. I SEND BLESSINGS and beauty to this woman and I close the chapter. After a day of solid rest in bed watching film, eating good food and a fabulous siesta I feel rejuvenated and joyful once again. This is how I vow to life from now on. As long as we connect to our power within and do our best to live in love I believe peace exists for us all right NOW. Living like this feels divine!
To be loving with myself I vow for the next week to:
1. Take 5 days off for stillness and solitude for a mini vacation
2. Walk daily on the beach
3. Get a least three massages over 10 days
4. Connect to God and bring more energy and love into my body
5. Drink my daily vege juice
6. Get to bed early about 9pm and rise when I feel like it
7. Do a visualization and prayer that cuts the chord with my friend, I then send healing light and beauty to this woman and then to myself.
8. Spend lots of time laughing and playing with life!
Wow it crept up on me and before I knew it I could barely move. I was utterly exhausted after a week of feeling out of sorts. Trying spin class on Saturday morning was a joke, I felt like a 90 year old! Utterly frustrated I was forced to look at my behavior and my emotions. What can I say some times I push myself too hard and then I crash. As I look deeper within I discover that I am growing and changing and as I integrate the new me and I need to REST a lot! I am so passionate about what I do that I don’t realize at times just how hard I push myself. In a vow to wake up and honor myself I am now have so much more awareness around taking good care of myself. Rest and stillness is vital for my wellbeing and I take the space to chill out often. What I have gained is a deeper connection to my body and spirit and much more joy as I rejoice in the recuperative powers gained from resting.
